Tell us about yourself and what you do? My name is Krystle Barrington. I'm a self-published author, writer, and blogger. My brand is focused on faith, life, and style. I absolutely love being creative and there is something about having a vision, putting in the work, and seeing it come to fruition.
What are some of the struggles and issues that you have dealt with being a woman? Growing up I struggled with my self-confidence. It has taken heartbreak, asking myself some really hard questions, and acknowledging truths about myself that aren't so pretty to become the woman I am today. Self-love is so important in how we move through life and what we choose to accept and not accept. I've worked really hard to get to a point where I can walk into a room and know that I belong there. I still have my moments at times but I remind myself how far I've come, and that is enough to keep holding my head up high.
How do you find strength when you're weak and want to give up? Whenever I am feeling weak, I pray and ask God to give me the strength and clarity to keep going. Often times just simply spending some quiet time with God with no distractions truly does something to lift my spirits. I also have an amazing tribe of women around me who love God and who are constantly encouraging me and pushing me creatively. They are a huge source of inspiration and accountability. When I am struggling with my confidence or feel stuck, they are always a call, text, or coffee date away.
Who is that one woman that inspires you to keep going? My mother is the epitome of class and hard work in my eyes. She is the smartest woman I know and she continues to set goals for herself. Whenever I need some advice, I can call on her. She is also brutally honest so I know she is always going to tell me what I need to hear and not what I want to hear. I don't always want to hear it, but I trust her opinion on pretty much everything. I'm grateful to have her as my mother.
What is something that you have learned later in life that you wished you knew earlier? Time is a precious thing. This is something I've always known but I didn't live by it. For years I lived in my own bubble. I was shy and timid and didn't feel comfortable in my own skin. There were seasons in my life where I gave my energy and time to all the wrong things. I can't get that time back. I now understand the value of making every single day count.
What is one fun fact about you that many people do not know? I love cupcakes so much that one of my best friends Karla gave me the nickname "Cupcake." Whenever I travel to a new city it is an absolute must that I find a cupcake shop.
What is that one thing that truly makes you happy? Writing is that one thing that truly makes me happy. Even if it's simply writing in my journal, it just makes my heart happy. Through every season of my life, good or bad, I've used writing to express myself. It has been my voice when I didn't feel comfortable speaking and it has been my therapy when life has gotten really hard for me.
How do you find peace in the middle of chaos? Firstly, I don't do well with chaos. I'm a very organized person and so when life gets super crazy and chaotic, I really have to be intentional about not letting life consume me. I find that when things get chaotic for me, I try to remind myself that God is ultimately in control. I definitely go to God in prayer and spend time with God with no distractions. I won't say that I don't ever experience some level of anxiety in the middle of chaos, but there is a peace about knowing that when the dust settles, everything will be okay. God has shown up in my life too many times to count and I know that He will not fail me. I know without a doubt that whatever is going on my life, God knows about it and He's going to take care of me.
What is something that you feel is lacking in a sisterhood? think there is a lack of knowing how to effectively deal with conflict. I think we live in a time where people will get in their feelings about something and instead of speaking to the person face to face about how they feel, nothing is said or it's expressed in an email or a text message. I think as women of God and sisters in Christ we have to get to a point where we are comfortable having uncomfortable conversations. People are not mind readers and asking questions is far less harmful than making assumptions. I've had friendships end simply because we did not speak about things and that's a shame. Forgiveness and showing grace are not easy but it's absolutely important and something I think we as women need to talk more about and be more intentional in practicing.
What is one thing that you want people to remember about you? I want people to remember me as an encourager. It feels good to support and encourage other people. Until the day I leave this earth, I am going to use my ability to write to encourage, motivate, and inspire. That is what makes me happy and that is what I know God has called me to do.
If you could pass one message on to the next sister what would it be? Don't focus on all the things you don't have. Don't focus on where you wish you could be. Today is the perfect opportunity to better your relationship with God, start that business, start that savings account, book that flight, etc. Just do it, and watch God move in your life. He wants us to try Him. He wants us to pray big prayers. He wants us to dream big.